Does your partner have ADD/ADHD
Have you ever wondered if your partner has undiagnosed ADD?
If so you might have noticed certain qualities that they bring to your relationship which may be frustrating to you.
I have treated ADD and it’s impact on life and love for 30 years now; I can help you understand, appreciate and develop strategies for dealing with it.
It’s important to note that people with ADD are typically very intelligent and well intended. The issues they struggle with are usually not based on bad character but rather on having a brain that is chemically and physically different. These differences can create relationship challenges in the areas of communication, intimacy and having a smooth domestic life together.
Here are a few of the typical complaints that I hear from partners of ADD/ADHD individuals
“My partner can really focus on things he likes but he's inconsistent about everything else.”
“My wife makes promises then she gets distracted and goes in a whole different direction.”
“I want my boyfriend to be more stable which he always says he'll try but he just can't seem to do it. Honestly, he hates when I say this but I feel like I have another child."
“The harder my girlfriend tries to focus on details the more frustrated she gets.”
“My fiance is very outgoing but doesn't understand certain subtleties in our social interactions. This often offends people and embarrasses me. He's so hyper. My friends pull away & think he's rude.”
“My husband's super smart but has a fast trigger for anger. He repeatedly makes bad decisions & acts impulsively.”
“My girlfriend can’t get organized or do normal things in a normal way. I don't understand it because she is so smart otherwise.”
“My roommate is very enthusiastic at first but then loses steam and never finishes what she starts. Our apartment is filled with half finished projects.”
“My husband procrastinates on everything. I hate it. I've turned into a nag And I also hate that."
“My partner is a Night Owl and a restless sleeper, night time is an ongoing battle for us.”
“My fiance is quick to anger, talks too much and goes off on unconnected tangents.”
If several of these patterns are present in your relationship your partner may have ADD/ADHD and it might be useful to have a session or two of Couples Therapy to understand it better. I can help you with strategies to get more in sync together.
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I look forward to hearing from you.
Laressa Desmond PhD
CPC CA LMFT
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